Did you know that you have a nerve that runs from your brain stem to nearly all of your organs, that helps you shift from fight to flight, to freeze? Well, my guest this month, Dr. Stephen Porges, originator of the Polyvagal Theory, certainly does. Together we discuss the importance of this nerve in your mental health, or ill-health, and how autonomic nerve system regulation undergirds much of the way we feel. 

https://a.co/d/fXjacXM

In Episode 51, I speak with Anson Whitmer, co-founder of the men’s mental health app, Mental. We talk about Anson’s graduate research, depression in men, mental health culture, how the mental health app can provide a comfortable space for men in the world of mental health, the multitude of things that effect mental health, including lifestyle issues, what bonding looks for in men, the usefulness of cold water, Anson’s personal interest in mental health, rates of suicide in men, the future of AI coaching, the AI infrastructure of Mental’s coaching models

https://www.getmental.com/

In this episode of the podcast, I chat with Oren Jay Sofer about his brand new book, Your Heart Was Made For This. Oren is a teacher of buddhist mindfulness and author of the previously featured Say What You Mean, which appeared on the podcast as Episode 23. In this episode, we discuss:

  • Oren’s motivation for writing the book
  • The external expression of the dharma
  • The benefits and skill of renunciation
  • How equanimity is not about managing expectations, but instead about being more fully with reality, i.e. enthusiasm is not in conflict with equanimity 
  • The merits of marrying equanimity with beginners mind
  • How formal practice creates opportunities in the present moment
  • The value of ritual according to the buddha 
  • Judaism and relationship to the sacred

https://www.orenjaysofer.com/

The book: https://a.co/d/drecH1G

In this episode, I speak with Dr. Martha Sweezy, IFS therapist, author and assistant professor at Harvard Medical School. We discuss her book, Internal Family Systems Therapy for Shame and Guilt. These topics are covered:

  • The multiplicity hypothesis of IFS
  • The difference between some Buddhist traditions and IFS
  • The ontology of IFS 
  • The shame cycle 
  • Soothing parts
  • Shaming parts
  • Outward shaming parts
  • “Scouting” managerial parts 
  • The kinds of burdens of parts
  • How children are self-referential 
  • Karlen Lyons-Ruth’s research
  • The usefulness (or not) of shame

In this episode, I talk with trauma specialist Dr. Frank Anderson about his book Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family Systems. We discuss:

– What is complex post traumatic stress disorder?

– How widespread some kind of trauma or overwhelming experience is

– The usefulness of empathy vs compassion, especially in clinical settings

– The importance and non-importance of distance between client and clinician

– The difference between IFS and other modalities with regard to the clinician’s mental capacities, or “therapist parts”

– The multiplicity hypothesis of internal family systems 

– The difference between grasping the tools of IFS while learning the model and grasping the core message 

In this episode, I chat with Sharon Salzberg about her latest book, Real Life: The Journey from Isolation to Openness and Freedom.

We discuss how useful self compassion is, the difference between remorse and guilt, urge surfing, the limits of mindfulness, the practice of looking directly at difficult feelings, why we might not label hardships as gifts, and the difference between equanimity and resignation, among other topics. Enjoy!

In this episode, I chat with Amy Edelstein, author and creator of the Inner Strength System — a program for teaching mindfulness to high school aged students. We discuss her book, The Conscious Classroom, and about the impact of her program (over 20,000 students in Philadelphia), the intricacies of its implementation and the special challenges facing teenagers today. 

The Conscious Classroom

In this episode, I interview stand up comedian, dad, and psychonaut Stuart Preston about his one man show — The Stoned Ape Show — and his booklet, The Grief Trip, about the death of his son and how psychedelics have helped him to heal with loss. We have a frank discussion covering psychedelics — including mushrooms, peyote and ayahuasca — as well as suicide, how to talk about it (spoiler: we should), shame, privacy and other mental health concerns.

Find Stuart here: https://stonedapecomedy.com/

In this episode, I speak with Chief Clinical Officer Athena Robinson at Woebot Health. Woebot is a therapist in your pocket; a conversational agent; someone to tell your woes to! I’ve been using Woebot for the last few months, and it honestly has helped me — to reframe unrealistic thoughts, get grounded, and feel supported. Give it a whirl — it’s free. And I hope you enjoy the episode.

https://woebothealth.com

In Episode 40 of the podcast, I speak with author and therapist Natasha Senra-Pereira about her riveting memoir, Talk Therapy is Not Enough. We chat about her journey of healing, including her work with alternative therapy approaches, including somatic healing, Internal Family Systems, Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR), psychedelics and more. It’s a fun book and fun conversation, and I hope you’ll enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed chatting with Natasha.

Her Therapy Practice:

The Book:

In this episode, me and the amazing Sacha Mardou (known as Mardou in her comic books), discuss her contribution to art and mental health via her ifscomics.com, her previous books (here and here), and her forthcoming memoir. We discuss her personal path to healing (which also comes by way of anxiety), and how the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model and her description of her sessions via art has led to some serious healing. I really enjoyed this chat, and I hope you do to!

Also mentioned:

In a bit of a departure for the podcast, this episode goes local, and explores how community mental health operates at a single organization, San Mar Family and Community Services in Boonsboro, Maryland. San Mar provides a diverse collection of services, including foster care support and outpatient mental health. My guests are CEO Keith Fanjoy and Director Jerica Washington, who explain the ins and outs of this special organization, including the philosophy of “Wraparound” services that inform much of its approach to community well being. Enjoy!

https://sanmarhope.org/

https://besterhope.org/

https://jebcenter.com/

– Program Overview

In this episode, we welcome Dr. Judson Brewer back to the podcast to understand anxiety and worry as a habit, and how to unravel them. Dr. Jud uses neuroscience to identify the ways that mindfulness can help us unlearn unskillful behaviors like worrying, and let curiosity disenchant our minds with the experience of ruminative habit loops.

Join me in conversation with Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor, associate professor of psychology at University of Arizona, and expert in the neuroscience of grief and loss. We discuss what happens to our brains when we lose those close to us, and how to explain grieving behavior, including what makes it so challenging. We also dispel some myths about the grieving process and add nuance to the conventional wisdom around what to expect during the “normal” grieving process. 

The Grieving Brain